Quitting can make you more confident but not for the reasons you might think.
You might think quitting porn creates confidence but what actually creates confidence is your thoughts about you quitting porn.
You look at this hard thing that you did, probably the hardest thing you’ve ever done and you automatically feel more confident because you’re thinking, Wow I did this hard thing, I’m such a badass.
And of course you can also quit porn not feel confident because you don’t think it was a big deal.
But here’s the thing, you can feel confident any time you want just by thinking the right thoughts.
Thoughts that make you feel confident.
Let me give you an example.
You know how after a relapse you feel down and you think you can’t quit?
And then later, you get charged up again and you think Oh Yeah, I’m doing this time, I’m NEVER WATCHING IT AGAIN!
And you feel confident, you feel strong, you feel determined.
That’s you creating confidence just by thinking and saying confident thoughts.
Conversely when you say, I can’t quit porn, you’re not going to feel any confidence at all because you don’t believe you can quit.
So it’s very important to pay attention to what you’re thinking and saying because that’s your mindset and that’s what determines whether you’re going to get free of porn or not.
