If you want to break the pattern of watching porn, you have to be aware of your patterns that lead you to porn.
When you are aware of your patterns, that awareness gives you the power to make a better, different decision in order to change your pattern.
An Example
Let’s say last Saturday you came home from work, you felt bored and then started scrolling TikTok.
You then saw a woman and wondered:
Is she on OnlyFans? Does she make adult content?
That curiosity led you to search.
When you searched, you found out that yes, she’s on OnlyFans and you felt lust and desire.
That lust and desire led you to go watch porn and relapse.
The Pattern
Your pattern looked like this:
- Boredom led to scrolling.
- Scrolling led to curiosity (“Does she have an OnlyFans account?”)
- Curiosity led to lust and desire.
- Lust and desire led to watching porn.
Then It Happened Again
On Tuesday you repeated this exact same pattern.
You now have two instances of this pattern.
Today is Friday.
You’re going to work.
You’re going to come home.
Do you want to repeat this pattern?
Do you want to wake up tomorrow and say:
“Oh God, I did it again.”
You are now aware.
And now you can make a different decision.
How Awareness Changes Everything
The way it works is:
- You see the pattern after it happens.
- Then you see the pattern while it’s happening.
- Eventually, you reach the point where you see the pattern before it happens.
That’s when you have the greatest opportunity to choose something different.
Change the Pattern, Change the Result
This is how you stop watching porn.
You know your patterns.
Then you change your patterns.
