Urges for porn are actually much easier to handle once you know what to do.
When you have the skills to calm your body and manage your mind, handling urges becomes like riding a bike.
It’s fighting and resisting urges that make them so difficult because you’re literally fighting against an emotion.
You Can’t Fight an Emotion
You can’t fight emotions.
You can try, but that only makes them more powerful and almost guarantees they’ll come back even stronger.
Fighting an emotion is like trying to fight happiness right after winning the lottery.
Your brain won’t let you because, in that moment, it believes all your problems have been solved.
It would be incredibly difficult to feel sad while you’re thinking that way.
Feel the Urge Instead of Fighting It
Your only real choice is to allow yourself to feel the emotion.
Don’t fight it.
Don’t resist it.
Simply acknowledge that you’re having an urge.
Breathe slowly.
Calm your body.
When Your Body Calms, Your Mind Follows
When you calm your body, your mind begins to settle as well.
From that calmer place, you can decide whether you actually want to watch porn instead of automatically reacting to the urge.
That’s where real freedom begins.
