Here’s the thing, your progress is your progress and you can look at it any way you want.
But I think erasing your progress just because you relapsed does you more harm than good.
When you relapse you think you have to start from 0. You think you’ve “lost all your progress”
But resetting is only an idea in your mind.
The progress is still here, some days you looked at porn, and other days you decided not too.
You can choose to learn from both and see them both as valuable lessons.
But resetting back to zero and beating yourself up doesn’t change the decisions you made on every one of those days.
Resetting ignores the wins you had and only penalizes you for the one “loss” you had.
Learning to handle a relapse in a healthy way is a key to getting free of it.
When you relapse and then spend more hours or days using porn because “you already blew it,” you’re not resetting, you’re just doubling down.
Resetting back to zero doesn’t help you, it keeps you stuck in the same shame cycle.
