Hey check it out, My Top 3 Tips for Quitting Porn is available on my website here.

I’d love to hear what you think. 

I wrote these tips a few years ago and was recently reviewing them to see if I still think they’re my top 3. Overall I’m happy with them and they still hold up. 

I’ll give you a free preview by telling you that the first one is to simply forgive yourself for all that you’ve done.

A lot of times when talking to porn addicts, they’ll say, “I’ll never forgive myself for watching porn,” or “I can’t ever forgive myself for what I did to my wife with porn.” 

I hear all this all the time and it’s so sad.  

We say things like this to punish ourselves for our actions. 

We beat ourselves up emotionally for our “sins” of the past and we think that if we punish ourselves enough, we won’t do it again. 

THIS IS NOT TRUE!!!

And it’s seriously detrimental to your mental health. 

Look at what what beating yourself up like this will do

  • It will destroy your self-esteem and self-worth, making it harder to believe in yourself and that you’ll ever get free of porn.
  • It will increase your stress & emotional pain which in turn will cause you to seek out the very thing that you’re trying to stop.
  • It will kill any motivation you have. Seriously, think about it, if you’re down on yourself and beating yourself up, do you feel motivated to quit watching porn?

Just writing this reminds me how much quitting porn is a big mental game and getting free of it is learning how to master that game. 

Anyway, back to forgiving yourself… 

We beat ourselves up and we think we’re doing the right thing. 

We think if we punish ourselves enough we won’t do it again.

We think it makes sense because if you spank a puppy enough it’ll stop peeing on the floor.

We’re not wrong, there is some truth to it too. I guarantee if anyone who is addicted to porn received a painful electrical shock every time they looked at it then they’d very quickly stop watching it. 

It’s easy to see how we can make this make sense. 

Forgiveness is the answer! 

To quit porn, we have to forgive ourselves and let it all go. 

When we do this, we start to release the chains that are keeping us addicted. 

We start to really free ourselves from porn because we’re not carrying around that heavy blanket of guilt & shame. 

We have to learn to forgive ourselves and we have to keep forgiving ourselves until we really do. 

It’s ok to hate porn and feel bad for using it.

It’s not ok to think we’re bad people for using it and that’s where this all comes from. 

We’re human, we’re going to feel bad when we do something we consider bad. 

We just have to be careful that we’re not making ourselves bad for what we do. 

I hope that helps friend, I’d love to hear your thoughts about it.

I love helping guys free themselves from porn, it’s the greatest reward as a porn addiction coach.

If you’re struggling, let’s talk. Sign up for a free session below, and together, we’ll create a plan for your recovery.

 

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I help men free themselves from porn addiction, change their thoughts, and repair their relationships.