Should you delete all your porn?

Should you delete ALL of your porn when quitting porn, or is it okay to keep some?

We all know the answer to this but stick around till the end; I have a Hot Tip that you can use if you really, really, really, really, really insist upon saving that one special video!

As a Porn Addiction coach, I always get asked,

“When trying to quit porn, should I delete all my porn? Or is it ok if I keep some?”

Obviously, the answer is YES!!!, you should get rid of ALL your porn.

IMO that’s not even a question, that’s just common sense. I think people ask me because they want to keep some of it for some reason (it’s their fav or it’s their wife etc.) and they want me to tell them that it’s ok.

I’ve never been one to save porn on my local computer. I never wanted any evidence of what I was doing since I always thought what I was doing was “wrong”.

I know a lot of people have collections of their favorite porn movies or scenes and some have their own personal movies that they’ve made, or their wife or partner has made for them.

In my opinion it’s vitally important that we remove all sources of porn when we’re trying to quit and here are my top 3 reasons.

1.       Temptation

If you’re trying to stop porn and you have access to it, it’s going to be that much more difficult for you to stop watching it. Since your brain knows that you have it, it’s always going to remind you of that. It’s not going to be forgotten and no matter how hard you make it to get access to it, it won’t matter.

Your brain would have you climbing Mt Everest to get it.

I mentioned this because one client had a thumbnail of porn and to “prevent” himself from watching it, he stored it in the back of his storage container underneath a big pile stuff. He thought that if it were difficult to get, he wouldn’t bother getting it.

Oh, how he underestimated the power of urges.

2.       Your commitment levels.

Quitting porn requires a deep commitment level. It’s not something that you can take lightly. Or rather you can, but I think your results will show how committed you are to it.

If you are not willing to delete ALL of your porn, then I’d say that you’re not fully committed to quitting.

And that’s 100% OKAY!

Not everyone who says they want to quit is actually ready to quit.
That’s part of the journey too, learning about commitment and learning when you are ready to take the next step.  

3.       Leverage

Archimedes said, “Give me a lever long enough and a fulcrum on which to place it, and I shall move the world.”

That’s what we call leverage, and it looks like this.

Leverage is important because it applies to how successful you will be overall. The more leverage you have, the more likely you will be successful. This applies to everything.

I heard this concept on a business podcast where the speaker was talking about when starting a new business, you need all the leverage you can get because it’s so hard and statistically almost every new business fails.

When I heard that, I thought the same thing applies to porn. You need all the leverage you can get to fight this because it’s hard and statistically you will fail a lot getting free of it.

By keeping porn around, it’s going to help your addiction win so it’ll be leveraged against you vs for you.

Picture it like this, keeping porn around looks like this.


And getting rid of your personal porn collection looks like this


Look at those and ask yourself, how bad do you want to quit?

Last Thought (very important)!

Consider this.

Your subconscious mind is addicted to porn.

It knows that if you’re not feeling great emotionally, (or physically) that you can watch porn and instantly feel better.

That porn addicted subconscious mind is going to influence every decision you make.

So, when you’re asking yourself if its ok to keep porn, what do you think your porn addicted subconscious is going to say? OF course it’s going to say its ok, that’s it’s drug supply, there’s NO WAY it’s going to say, yeah, we’re good, get rid of it.

NEVER. YOU CAN’T TRUST YOUR PORN ADDICTED SUBCONSCIOS MIND WHEN YOU WANT TO QUIT PORN!

You can’t! Its going to lie to you every chance it can just to get porn.

That’s how it works and that’s what makes this journey so hard.

Ok here’s the HOT TIP if you insist upon saving that one special video.

If you must, you cannot get rid of it, here’s what you do.

Put it on a thumbnail and give it to someone you trust.

Tell them, keep this and when I have 6 months or a year FREE of porn, ask me if I want it back?

If you can do that, if you’re free of porn for a length of time, and you’re really free of it and you’re not just really good at resisting it, because it’s not about that at all, Then you’ll be in the right mindset to answer that question.

When you’re free of it for a while, and your dependency upon it drops, you’ll likely won’t want it anymore.

When you truly get free of it, you know you don’t need it and you know you don’t want it. You understand why you were using it and you know deep down that you don’t need it or want it anymore.

It’s a total mindset shift and it’s the most FREEING thing I’ve ever experienced. 

If you want to find out more or find out if this will work for you, let’s get together and talk about it. 

This link, takes you to my scheduler where you can book a session with me to find out more. 

 

 

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