I know I have many times before I finally quit porn.
I’d start out reading reddit or something not-at-all porn related and next thing I know, I’ve had a slip.
Sometimes it felt like someone else was in control or at least it felt like I wasn’t doing the driving.
Here’s what’s actually happening.
Let’s say you just got home from a hard day at work and you’re feeling frustrated. You just want to chill out and relax but the days events are spinning around in your head.
All of a sudden you remember that really hot chick you saw online and start fantasizing about her. Does this sound familiar?
This is how it starts.
That thought, the one that you “remembered” is actually your subconscious mind at work. It knows you’re feeling frustrated, and that porn will create the ultimate dopamine rush that is guaranteed to get rid of all those frustrated feelings.
Your subconscious mind wants you to look at porn ASAP so that you can feel happy instead of frustrated.
But, and he’s the real trick, your subconscious mind cannot make you open your browser and go to a porn site. It doesn’t have that power, only you can do that.
So how does it get you to watch porn?
It gives you that thought about the hot chick you saw online; it conjures up that memory and puts it in your memory stream so that you’ll say
OH YEAAHHH I remember her!!!
You’ll then feel lust & desire, you’ll get aroused and well we all know what happens next… the big slip.
The big slip followed by crushing shame & guilt.
That’s when you ask yourself, how did I get here?
You got there because your brain took over. Your subconscious mind led you to porn and then you just followed the same pattern that you’ve done 1,000’s of times.
You’ve done it so many times now that conscious thought is not required.
You go on autopilot.
It’s like driving a car.
You’ve driven a car 1,000’s of times now so you don’t need to think about it much anymore, you just get in and drive.
You don’t think about starting the car, putting it in gear & driving off, you just do it while you’re thinking about something completely different.
The next time you ask yourself, how did I get here? Just remember that your subconscious was driving you to porn.
The next question most people ask is, how do you stop it?
The answer is you have to become conscious of your thoughts & emotions that lead you to watch porn.
The next time you have a slip, stop, and think about what you were feeling prior to watching porn.
Write down the entire story of how you got to porn in as much detail as you can.
Write down the date & time as well as where you were, what device you used and how long you looked at porn.
I call this a Learning Opportunity and it is one of the tools I use in my coaching program.
I use these to track all the details we can about the slips.
We do this so that you’re more aware of the all the things that lead you to porn.
Think of it like a mystery that you’re trying to solve, and the slip is a crime scene.
Collect as much data as you can so that the next time you face this situation, you’ll be more aware of it.
Once you get more aware of it, you’ll be more conscious, and you’ll be able to better decide what you want (to not look at porn) vs what you don’t want (looking at porn).
You’ll start by collecting all the data after the slip. Next, you’ll start to notice you’re in this pattern while you’re slipping and eventually, you’ll notice the pattern before the slip.
You’ll become more conscious and aware so that you can start making better decisions that are right for you.
Once you see this, you’ll be AMAZED!
You start to identify patterns, your conscious awareness grows, and you start making better choices that lead you aware from porn vs towards porn.
It’s beautiful work!
Give this a shot, let me know how it works for you.
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