When I say this on Instagram or any other platform, I always get challenged by it from someone who passionately believes that porn it is evil reincarnated. They belief it is the most destructive and evil thing that exists in the know universe.
I respect their opinions, but my opinion is that there is nothing wrong with it.
Pornography is a thing, it is neither good nor bad, it is just a thing.
I don’t condone any of the destructive acts associated with the industry, I don’t condone the scrum of the earth who promote human trafficking, none of that. I’m fully for any efforts to stop that from happening.
I fully support and donate to Operation Underground Railroad, and I urge you to do the same.
Operation Underground Railroad (ourrescue.org)
Getting back to my point, porn in itself is neither good nor bad.
You watching porn is neither good nor bad, it is just you watching porn.
It is only when we have thoughts about us watching porn is when we start to make it a problem.
I’m saying this because what typically people do is they think they’re a bad person because they watch porn. They don’t like porn, or they hate it, they hate all that’s going on in that industry and they associate themselves being a bad person because they watch porn.
I’m here to say that is 100% NOT TRUE.
You are not a bad person because you watch porn. You’re simply a person who watches porn.
Another way think about this is to look at all the companies that use child labor.
Are you a bad person because you use Nestles, Nike, Starbucks, or Walmart?
You can choose to think that the choice is yours.
However, when we think that we’re a bad person because we look at porn, it makes getting free of porn that much more difficult if not impossible.
When we think we’re a bad person for looking at porn we’re not in the right mental mind space in order to effectively execute the actions required in order to free ourselves from it.
In other words, if we are beating ourselves up for using porn, we can’t use our minds effectively enough to get free of it and often we go right back to it because we’re feeling so negative about using it in the first place.
It’s a vicious cycle.
To break the cycle and get free of it you have to accept that you’re a person who looks at porn AND you have to learn to love yourself regardless.
This requires forgiveness. That is required!!
You can still think the porn industry is despicable and work to change that but know that you’re not a bad person because you’ve learned to use porn as a coping mechanism.
You can use all the negativity of the industry to drive you to get free of it but again, know that you’re not a bad person because you’ve used it in the past or even currently.
Use all this energy and power to get free of it instead of beating yourself up for all that you do.
This is the way to freedom!
This is the way out!
