Years ago, while in a 12-step meeting for porn and sex addiction, one of the guys whom I respected said.
“It’s too bad you can’t think your way out of addiction!”
When I heard that I felt disappointed because I didn’t know any other way to solve it, so it felt like I was doomed or something. Or at least doomed to go to 12-step meetings every week.
It’s funny I experienced that because now I know, based on my mindset training and how the brain works, that you DO think your way out of addiction. In fact, that’s the ONLY way out of addiction and it’s impossible not to.
In order for something to change, you first have to think about it. That creates the emotion of desire (or determination) which leads to the action of change. That’s how change works.
We think, we feel and then we act.
This is called the
Think->Feel->Act cycle
and it is the reason why we do (or don’t do) anything.
In terms of recovering from porn addiction, every method that that exists today starts with a thought. Even 12- step programs where they train you to pick up the phone when you have the urge to drink or watch porn. You have to think about that in order to do it first.
You have to consciously think the thought in order to pick up the phone to call someone.
Even when you don’t want to because you don’t want to bother someone, or you feel ashamed asking for help. Those are just thoughts you’re having. They in turn create emotions which, depending on what you decide, will either block you or not from making that phone call.
Whether you make the phone call or not, the end result is based off of your thoughts.
Everything is based on your thoughts and in order to effectively change your life, you have to change your thoughts first.
Your success (in anything) comes down to what you’re thinking & believing. Learning how to manage your thoughts and beliefs will determine how successful you are.
This is true in recovering from porn addiction and it’s true in life.
“Change your thoughts and you will change your life” -said someone
I don’t know if Tony Robbins said that or not but it’s definitely true.
In my coaching program where I help men get free of porn, I show them how to change their thoughts so they can…
- stop wasting hours on end looking for that perfect porn video
- stop hurting their wife by looking at porn instead of being there for their wife
- get off the guilt & shame roller coaster
In essence, I’m teaching them how to think their way out of porn addiction.
If you all those things by thinking your way out of your addiction, then schedule a call with me here
We’ll meet up, talk things over and then decide whether we want to work together.
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