When you’re addicted to porn, the urges are 

UNBELIEVABLY DIFFICULT! 

As a mindset coach, I should say they CAN be challenging because it’s better to see the actual truth, that they’re not ALL unbelievably difficult even if it feels like they are. It’s better to see that some are and some are not, i.e. not work in absolutes etc. 

But anyone who’s actually experienced urges for porn knows EXACTLY what I’m talking about when I say they’re unbelievably difficult. 

Urges for porn are so hard because they FEEL like they’re real. You actually BELIEVE that you want to look at porn. That’s like INSANITY because only hours before you were swearing up and down on your life that you were done with it. 

That you were NEVER EVER GOING TO LOOK AT PORN AGAIN!!!!

Oh how many times have I said that!

IT’S ABSOLUTELY INSANE!! 

If you want something that is going to have you question your own sanity, get addicted to porn and try to quit. That’ll break even the strongest person. 

Another reason is that it’s like a switch that you can’t turn off until you actually watch porn or get some sort of sexual release. I used to actually call it The Switch because I knew as soon as it was ON, I was going to slip & watch porn soon. It was just a matter of time. 

The switch to me was so real because after a slip on porn, the switch would be returned to the OFF position so I didn’t have any interest in porn at all. 

In fact, I hated it, I despised it, it was everything that was wrong with the world. Plus I hated myself for using it and not being able to stop. 

So the switch would be OFF but it was only a matter of time before it got switched ON again. It might be an hour, it might be a few days before I’d be like ‘ohhhh, what’s that…..’ and start to get curious again. 

That alone drove me insane! I used to ask HOW?!?, in pure disbelief. How can I believe so strongly that I do not want to look at porn but then within a short time, that’s completely gone and now I want to look at it again. 

I had so much trouble comprehending this because it didn’t make logical sense and I’m a very logical guy. 

Another thing that used to drive me crazy once the switch was on, was constantly fighting it. 

I’d be resisting the urge as best as I could. 

I’d start to look at porn then I’d say I don’t want to do this then I’d stop. 

A few mins later I’d start again because my brain said let’s have one more peek then I’d remember that I don’t want to do this and I’d stop. 

I’d really wanted to look at porn but at the same time I really didn’t. 

It was a HUGE struggle that would go on for HOURS and it was pure torture that only ended one way, slipping on porn yet again!

Lastly for me what made urges so hard was the emotional damage. When you fail at something so many times, it’s devastating. You stop believing in yourself very quickly. It’s very destructive. 

You get excited because you believe that you’re never going to look at porn again. That excitement is quickly destroyed when you slip again so you purposely stop getting excited. You don’t believe you’ll ever be free, you don’t believe in yourself so you just give up. 

It’s a giant emotional roller coaster that you want to get off but you can’t. 

Writing this out and remembering how bad it was, I’m so happy those days are over. 

Thankfully, in the midst of all that sh*t, I discovered Coaching. 

Coaching was a godsend for me, I can’t begin to describe how life changing it was. 

FINALLY I found something that worked and most importantly it gave me the power to overcome my urges for porn.. 

All the pain and all the struggling with urges was eliminated with what I learned from Coaching. 

I learned how to handle urges and not fight them. I learned that resisting them is actually the exact opposite of the right way to handle them. 

Most importantly, remember that moment I talked about where you really want to look at porn while at the same time you really don’t? 

That’s called a Nitty Gritty moment because that’s what it feels like. It feels like crap, like you’re stuck in the gears and you have to make a very difficult decision. 

To watch porn or not. 

Most times we’re not fully conscious here, we’re spinning in our head and operating on autopilot so the decision is almost made for us. 

Well Coaching directly addresses the Nitty Gritty moments and shows you how to get through them.

Once you get through a few of them, all of a sudden your confidence in quitting porn SKYROCKETS!!! 

You now know how to handle urges like you’ve never done before. 

This is the take off point, the launch, this is the start where most of my clients never look at porn AGAIN!

Once they figure out how to get through those Nitty Gritty moments then it’s all over. 

All that pain and suffering from urges for porn is gone and you’re well on your way to a life free from porn. 

Do you want help getting through the Nitty Gritty moments? 

Do you want to make urges go away for good? 

I can help you, my name is Matt Smith and I help men quit porn! 

I have an AMAZING 3 Month Program where most of my clients are free of porn in 6 weeks! 

Imagine never having to handle another urge for porn again!

Imagine never having to feel that pain and suffering ever again! 

Click on the button below to get a FREE 45 min call with me where on the call we’ll create your own individualized plan for how to handle urges. 

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