How to Manage Guilt & Shame.

There’s alot to learn about guilt and shame so that we can better process it.

This is something I wrote earlier

ok… we think that we’ve done something wrong and we’re bad people because of it.

If we asked the world, they’d probably agree with us.

Here’s what you can do to help process this.

Take away all the right & wrong and list all the facts.

for example

A man watched porn and masturbated.

or

A married man hired a prostitute for sex.

Those are the facts.

We can think we are a complete pos for doing that, but remember we’re taking emotion out of this, we’re only looking at the facts.

Next… look at that man and say

… given the life he’s led where he’s used porn to cope for X amount of years

… given he’s had a hard life, he’s probably experienced trauma that hurt him really badly and that shaped him into who he is. (again, no judgement)

It is UNDERSTANDABLE why he would do what he did.

It is UNDERSTANDABLE that a man who’s been through what he has and was taught and trained to use porn to cope, that he would do what he did.

It is UNDERSTANDABLE that a man who has been through all of that and didn’t have a good support system, didn’t have good mental health available to him would be the way he is.

When we can understand Why we did what we did, it goes a long way towards forgiving ourselves for what we did.

Think about that long and hard.

Think about how it applies to you.

And try to muster up as much love and understanding that you possibly can to forgive yourself and let it go.

This is the healing that we all have to go through and the more you heal, the less you’ll need it.

It’s hard work but it is SO SO worth it! 

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Take care my brothers, I hope you never look at porn again!